I have recently read a awesome
blog, you may classify it as soul soup, while inspiring as it is, I would like to write down some reflections here.
Asking someone about what they are doing or what to do with their life
tend to drag down the conversion, I am just one of such folks, talk movies and
books to me, I would be grateful and engaged, while if you wanna discuss my
ambitious in life, like the others, the light in my eyes goes out, gradually.
It is sad, it is profoundly pathetic.
Life is not a magical machine as the society telling us: drop in a
college degree, a decent job- at least looks decent, a house, and out pops a
happy life. NO, it is not, you are unwilling to tell people your ambitious
because your direction is crippling. Life has never been easy, as we all know.
We just do not speak it out or pretend things will work out by themselves as 车到山前必有路, the horrible fact is no one
cares your life if you yourself do not give a damn.
Just because you are busy does not mean you know what you are doing. The
question here is why are you doing this, where do you want to be and how do you
schedule on getting there.
We should not gamble the ONLY one life that we have to live. The things
that stops us from achieving higher:
1. We may not take advantage of our college years.
- Majoring
in something out of convenience, with no idea what they are going to do
with their education.
- in
graduate school because of the uncertainty in that non-academical
environment.
- in
a job with their major in, while have no real passion for that industry.
And surrounded by people who are doing the same. They may have a decent
salary and benefits, not too bad annual leave, which makes them reluctant
to leave and take a step further.
“There are moments
when one has to choose between living one’s own life, fully, entirely,
completely – or dragging out some false, shallow, degrading existence that the
world in its hypocrisy demands. You have that moment now. Choose!” – Oscar Wild
- Imagine
you inherent millions dollars from an uncle that you hardly know who just
passed away, how would you fill your days with, what do you want to
accomplish? Chances are, the answer to above questions is what you should
be doing.
2. You live for the future
- You
expect that some event in the future will make you happy. Living for the
future and thinking the future will be better after something is completed
or once you’ve earned degree, grad school or promotion at work. You are
missing the opportunities around you in the present because you live for
the future.
“You spend your
whole life stuck in the labyrinth, thinking how you’ll escape one day, and how
awesome it will be, and imagining that future keeps you going, but you never do
it. You just use the future to escape the present.” – John Green
- Don’t live to be happy. Be happy while living.
- Live
fully and embrace the present. You can walk your way through life thinking
the future will be brighter but if you are not doing the things that
matter or count today then you will never arrive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
3. You are controlled by your parents, or you are controlled by the
assumption that your parents are hindering you.
- Most
parents just want what is safe and secure for their children, they are
less interested in whether or not that makes you happy or what motivates
you. You yourself should be the one conducting your own life.
- they
do not want you to take risk or fail while wanting you to be economically
independent so you can take care of yourself and their grandson, if there
is any, They want to know that you can pay your own
bills and provide for their future grandchildren.
- Sometimes
the harder route is better for us, and we as adult individuals can see
that, but our parents can’t see
our lives in the same light.
- while
you should respect the wishes and viewpoints of your parents, you don’t
have to mindlessly trudge down the path they lay out for you. If you truly
want to do something, you need to take control of your own life and do it.
At the end of the day, it’s your life
to live.
- Listen
to them. Consider their advice. They’ve been around a lot longer than you,
and they’ve got a lot of wisdom and good sense to share. But it’s nothing
new for children to hold different values and goals than their parents,
and at some point you have to learn to define your own code.
4.
Your environment is holding you back.
- What
you surround yourself with affects who you are and what you do.
- How
will you ever figure out what to do in your 20s if your friends spend
their time addicting to brag and show off in social networks or playing
games or doing things that provide instant gratification instead of
working towards their goals.
- Excessive
indulgence (whether it’s drinking, partying, drug use, sex, junk eating,
or whatever) can prevent you from focusing on self-discovery and
improvement, and it can even become your worst enemy.
- Being
social is good, and involving yourself in the right relationships can
encourage and empower you.
- surround
yourself with people who have qualities you admire, who are smarter and
more driven than you. Let their success rub off. Soak up their energy, and
let their drive help push you to be
better too.
- If
you want to get somewhere, then hang out with the people who are already
there or who also want to get there.
5.
You’ve taken the wrong path.
- They
think they’ll have plenty of time to get what they want, so they don’t
take the appropriate steps now, and suddenly life passes them by, and they
then realize it is too late to turn back.
- You
could be spending most of your time climbing a ladder leaned up against
the wrong wall (. Just because their's a ladder presented in front of you
doesn’t mean you need to climb it. Go find the right ladder.
- YOLO. You Only Live Once? so why waste your
time doing something you don’t even care about?
6. You
stopped learning.
- What
have you done? What skills do you possess? A lifelong
education can also be your greatest tool—and one that’s an absolute
necessity for greatness.
- Read
books. Think about it this way; someone spent their entire life learning
some painful lesson and is offering these golden nuggets to you for less
than $10. Why wouldn’t you take that knowledge so you can learn from
others!!!!!
“I have never let
my schooling interfere with my education” – Mark Twain
- When
you’re passionate about one industry, you’ll be amazed at how quickly you
learn, how hungrily you consume new knowledge.
7.
You do the same thing everyday.
- Just
because you get older doesn’t mean you’ll become more successful. That’s
an assumption a lot of people seem to make, whether they realize it or
not, and it’s false. After you graduate, it’s completely up to you to make
forward progressions in your life.
- No
one is going to hand you anything, and you’re wrong if you think you
automatically deserve it—after all, you probably haven’t really done anything yet.
- If
you want different results tomorrow, do different things today. It will
never be easier to take big risks and try new things than when you’re
still young—you’re likely to have fewer commitments and obligations to
hold you down.
- If
your environment is holding you back, change your environment.
- Eliminate
the negative, embrace the positive, and form habits that breed success.
8.
You’re not pushing yourself.
- Persistence
is a virtue.
- Practice
makes perfection!
- You’ve
probably tried many things in your life, but you likely haven’t ever
committed fully to one for a long period of time. When the goal you’re
working on is your life’s true mission, you’ll find it hard to toss
aside—the drive inside will tell you to keep going.
- When
your social life begins to suffer, your cash flow gets tight, and the
frustrations start piling up, don’t quit. That’s progress, and it’s not
easy, but there’s a light on the other side of it. Those who can
breakthrough those moments is what separates the wolves from the sheep.
- Don’t
sit back in a comfortable job that will give you a 5% annual raise. You
are not learning. You are not pushing yourself. You are not growing.
You’re wasting your time and living a life of complacency. If you want to
see change, you are going to have to take risk, put in the time and work
your ass off.
- Stop
wasting time filling your life with the things that billion dollar
marketing companies tell you that you need, and instead build your days on
getting to where you want to be.
